Sexually molested as a young girl, Emotionally and physically abused also. Ive felt crippled by my past and that horrible internal voice that always puts me down and tells me Im useless and unlovable, finding a way to lessen it and gain some confidence would be my goal now. What a horrible circle! I moved back home after a long term illness and on top of it all I was attacked and put into a coma for about 6 weeks. So here goes. Knowing that my thoughts and feelings of being unloved and unwanted will always come and go is helpful. For what its worth…Try with all your loving might to see yourself through the eyes of someone who loves you and respects you…that person is first and foremost YOU. Friends family and everything. I talk to my family and that’s it. I am an outcast. In short, I had and still am, a loner. He calls me once maybe twice a year and it makes me wonder how does now your dad do this to you! I cry sometimes because I feel very very lonely insight. educated, very slim and look much younger than my age. Turns out, it happens. I was wrong for keeping my kids away from certain things that I needed to let my kids make their own teen mistakes that I couldn’t protect them forever. I don’t need people to be happy. We experience it because its evident in everything that happens with other people. People don’t include me either but it’s ok. Because I know someday that people will like me because I’m fun. I’m a senior in high school and for some reason I really don’t fit in. It’s as though a mass narcissism and even sociopathic traits are becoming the norm in our society and for lonely discarded people there’s no where turn to for help or understanding. I love having fun. If you already know how you give and receive love and you still feel like no one loves you, read When You Don’t Feel Good Enough to Be Loved. I don’t find socialising easy, used to ride motorcycles and took up hobbies that didn’t require me to get involved with other people. For instance, to build a happy family, family members must experience deep affection, loyalty, and a healthy attachment. I’m 68 years old and don’t have one person who ever cared about me. I have been devolved for 6 years and no one asked me out. Why was it wrong when I said and did that? You may have helped brighten someone’s day just by smiling at them, or by doing the ‘right thing’. Everything we are thinking is based on how everyone else treats us. I cannot beg. They were absolutely right, no one liked me. Parents are their child’s, first love. No man wants to stay with me, despite all my efforts. I feel so lonely. The loneliness and worthlessness I feel, is all my own doing; I let myself get this way. I wanted the American family type but like I said I’m still married to their dad & were still as a family but not near the way I ever wanted or imagined. When you feel like you never do anything right. NOBODY LIKES YOU!”, Of course, the critical inner voice isn’t experienced as an actual voice talking to us. The green monster is the worst thing that leads to abuse hatred ect… Most people don’t even know they do it because life seems to get handed to them so there head swells! I have back to this blog hundreth of times and still nothing changed…. One of the best ways to see signs of God’s blessing on your relationship is to look at a marriage that wasn’t blessed by God. But I have a desire to act extremely nice, even submissive, though I don’t think I am thinking very kindly of the other person. I know that if they can love me regardless of my weird quirks, I can love myself. I put my energy into my kids. Does anyone see a pattern? We may act timid with others, making it more difficult to have a clear or relaxed exchange that would lead to a positive social outcome. I am a lonely person and I don’t have family members or relatives. Put on a happy song, think back to one of your happier times.. do you not smile? The peace of Jesus Christ, the warm embrace of the Holy Spirit, and the love of God the Father is overwhelming when I sit in silence. While it’s true that I am indeed my own worst enemy – I’m the only friend I have (sad right?). It may tell you, you’re too shy to make friends, so you avoid social situations. But YOU ALL are better. Talking in person or over the phone tends to work better than talking through text or online chat. Its hard to be liked. I am so apparently UGLY that those men not only felt the need to laugh at me whilst looking at me, but point at me too whilst saying nasty, hurtful things. Thanks. Maian, you have very articulately stated exactly how I feel, myself. It sounds so lonely. Now I feel a tug of war.. You have fallen into the trap of believing what you think. Leave your mom out for a while and see how she likes it. I feel the same way. The person continued to talk, but they changed the topic to general things. I try to meet new people but I can’t get past the aquantaince stage. I just feel so much different than everyone else. Its very difficult to not feel defeated and keep putting yourself out there to meet more new people when its people who ultimately cause you so much pain. It’s hard being lonely and trying to make friends as an adult – it’s like a job. I feel as though I’m not good enough or pretty enough for anyone to love. I take my parents and my daughter to Europe every year for vacation, I put my daughter to private school since she was pre-schooler , I try to surprise my family with nice gifts but inside I feel very empty. It hurt badly and it cut deeply. I am your friend, My family hates me you can look at my comments on this for the rest of the details but I don’t know how too I feel lost do you?? Human beings get really out of whack when it comes to seeking social worth, but in the end, as valuable as it can be, it is still an illusion. I think I need an personal psychiatrist that no one knows in my life. Whenever I come across real people or characters who are loved by everyone for no apparent reason I hate them cause I never get that. I apologized, but now this friend won’t even see me. I feel so alone but I feel like if I talk about it then people will feel like Their dragging me around just having to handle me without wanting to help. So I understand the frustration. Lounik, try to get away from having to lie. When I was younger I was so confident and had nothing but friends but now in my 30’s a lot of that have changed. I have no clue who are you or where do you come from or what qualities you have… He doesn’t like you. I still always say the nicest things,sometimes I stand up for myself but usally just take the sht! You just need that push. : ). My issue is with grown children. You just need the push. I’m sad and cry all the time which doesn’t help heal. Wow. I can’t tell you not to let it affect you, because it will, and it has! I recently found out that I am on the autism spectrum, high functioning, what used to be called asberger syndrome. People liked me so much, i was a popular person, but i just thought I am diffrent from others, I losed myself, I hated my self and after that people didnt like me too, they just say that you are unlikble right in front of me, at school, im 16, nobody likes me nobody loves me, and I refuse my parents, so they dont like me too, I wish I could understand the text but I am an english learner and I don’t know english this much well. I guess that it is progress and for that I am thankful. No one wanted to know why I did some things. “It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.”. If people reject you, maybe its a sign of their own insecurities, or maybe they’re farting and scared you will find their stench out. If a man says or thinks your ugly doesn’t mean you are ugly, it just means he can’t appreciate your beauty just then. Its difficult for me to advice something without knowing what is happening in your life right now. Oh I do relate to you , we try but would like to be heard too . I'm the oldest of three children, and I know that parents favour one of their children over the other. Then they tell me I need to forgive & say why would anyone like me, what have I done to make anyone like me. I am kidding myself thinking our marriage can be salvaged? My life should be great but all of a sudden I’m a bully when all I do it try and help. 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